Your Emotional Home Doesn't Have to be Where the Heart (or mind) is.

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“Most people are as happy as they make their minds up to be”--Abraham Lincoln.


Every year it seems that hurricanes and tornados hit the same spots, damage the same people’s homes, and occur almost like clockwork every couple of years. While it is always sad to see people lose everything, I always wonder "Why wouldn't they just move?". The same might could be said for why I still live in NY with a giant crime rate, ridiculous taxes, and politicians that do not reflect my values. For me, the answer is, (as I guess the answer for the people subject to natural disasters would be) “because it is home”. I do not have a good logical answer other than familiarity, friends, family, and attachment.

We have familiarity and attachment to our "emotional homes" as well. This is the place we go to emotionally when we are triggered by external events. It is important to be aware that we have an emotional home and what our emotional home is.  Only then you can begin to get control of it. The quality of your life is directly a result of the quality of your emotions. More than any other factor, this determines where you are in life.

If you are happily married with wonderful children but are worried and anxious, you have a worried and anxious life. If you are a rock star at work or on the field, but still feel inadequate or unfulfilled, you have an insecure life. If you have the biggest house and the fastest cars but are filled with frustration and anger you aren’t rich…you are angry and poor.

My emotional home for most of my life was anger. For some, it is guilt, shame, or fear.  I would respond to being hurt with...continue reading
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